Jan 30, 2015

Women's Ideal Body Types Throughout History

Apple bosom, pear shape, or skinny legs. Curvy, hour glass, flat chested, slim waist.

You are beautiful.

Jan 29, 2015

The Most Inspiring Elementary School Student

Meet my new hero; A Kenyan woman named Priscilla Sitienei who is going to class with six of her great-great-grandchildren in order to complete her primary school education. She is 90.
Sitienei is a midwife in the village of Ndalat with no skill to read and write. She joined Leaders Vision Preparatory School five years ago in order to learn how to, with hopes to pass on her knowledge of herbs and natural medicines by writing them down. To this day, she’s believed to be the oldest primary school student in the world. Her classmates call her “Gogo,” which translates from the local language, Kalenjin, as “grandmother.” And as if we do not learn from her enough, she wears the school uniform!
Below are Gogo's words as told to the BBC:
“I’d like to be able to read the Bible, I also want to inspire children to get an education. Too many older children are not in school. They even have children themselves. They tell me they are too old,” she continued. “I tell them, ‘Well I am at school and so should you. I see children who are lost, children who are without fathers, just going round and round, hopeless. I want to inspire them to go to school.” 
“I want to say to the children of the world, especially girls, that education will be your wealth, don’t look back and run to your father,” she said. “With education you can be whatever you want, a doctor, lawyer, or pilot.”
Sitienei still works as a midwife, sometimes assisting women to give birth in her dorm room, which she shares with her great-great-grandchild. She is the motivator, inspiration, a fun friend to all her class mates. 
And the world.
ps: What's our excuse?

Jan 18, 2015

Why I do not want to change my last name

 I have edited (adding Fassbender*wink) and am re-posting this from 2012 archives.

“What is in a name, that which we call a rose …” The great Shakespeare once said. And I think I can understand the poet a little bit.

There are many things in life that I am not sure of. But my name is not one of them. I will never going to drop it. And, behold… I am not preaching why you should not change your last name, let alone saying that if you do; you are wrong. No, nothing like that.
  1. My last name is the chunkiest part of me. Followed by my cheeks and maybe my not so toned abs. It is me. It is everything that forms me to the day I met you. I have been breathing, living, walking, eating, and laugh-cry for decades with that name.
  2. For years, I have received letters and invitations with that name addressed to me, and bills and pay checks too. It is also the name that’s written in my prescriptions. I have been renewing IDs with that name, applied for jobs and filling out magazine subscriptions with that too. Social media platforms? Yea, that. Some might think those are silly reasons, but… I cannot help it, it is who I am. And the idea of going through the hassle of changing it is just…meh.
  3. I adore the very first man I know in life, my Dad. And carrying his last name is a privilege, a meaningful gem I wish to carry to my grave, crafted to my tomb if I am buried, engraved to my urn if I am cremated.
  4. My Mom never changed her maiden name. And I do not recall her being bugged by a nagging husband pushing her to change it. He, in all his manliness never did that to her. In our very eyes, he was the pillar, the head, the captain of the family.
  5. Patriarchal force is one of the strongest things that embody Batak culture.  So if you’re a Batak lady, married to a Batak man, you might expect to hear sayings like “You are a (insert husband’s last name) now… You should prioritize (insert husband’s last name) relatives and events before anything else.” As one proud Batak lady, I cringed. My Batak family operates (if that’s the word) on love and passion. What we prioritize always based on reality, logic and urgency. Not names and or hierarchies
  6. A tradition. Some might declare. I hate to say this but… so was women not being able to vote. But, that has changed, yes?
  7. Most women would change their name immediately as they get married. It may be a force of habit. I can understand that. But hopefully we all understand that marriage needs bigger efforts than just a change of name. I for one know that for sure. I did not change it when I got married in 2008 and am sticking with that decision.
Here are some questions people have politely asked me over this matter:
  1. Why not hyphenate and ask your husband to hyphenate his name too? I can say it is great for equality, but then it would be two people changing their identity for marriage. As I said in #7 above, you need more than that. So, I opt to invest my energy elsewhere. I might hyphenate for social events but not officially.
  2. What will your children have as a last name? I will try to raise my future kids so that they will be proud carrying their last name, which is their father’s. They will have my last name as their middle name, ... because, if I am not mistaken, you need my eggs and my uterus, yes? That’s all. They can also be creative, you know… choosing their own name like Buttercup or Sparkles. Haha. NOT!
  3. Won't you feel like less of a family if you have a different last name from your husband and children? I am not a mama yet. However, I'm quite sure that if I bear and or raise a child, that is enough to qualify me for feeling like their family. As with their father, we will go through ups and downs together and got each other’s back. We will be busy handling life and there be no time to check on our last names.
  4. Are you just afraid of divorce? Well. Divorce did not kill me. Obvs. And that is not a reason for my decision, but it is something to consider. I know I will love him dearly, and hope we are going to be together forever until the end of time or at least until I witness an aurora while gazing at herds of unicorns with him. But, it will be naive not to realize that something like a third of marriages end in divorce. Would I then change back to my birth name? And if I re-marry (if, again), do I change it again to the new husband's name? What am I, a cattle? Can you handle the administrative hassle? Boy, I skipped many fields in magazine subscriptions, that is how lazy I can be!
  5. Are you saying that if I decide to change my last name, it means I am not proud of who I am? No. This is not about you. It’s about me. I only do things that make me happier and feel better. I know changing my last name will not do so for me, so I am sticking with mine.
  6. Maybe you’re just being stubborn? It is not a maybe. It is a yes.
  7. What if your husband is James Franco, or Michael Fassbender  !? Ha. You got me. I just made that question up. But the answer remains. No. I think Hutasoit suits me best.
Note to my future long life partner, whoever you may be. Even if you are Franco, or Fassbender.
My dearest, if someday God grant us children, I promise you, I- a woman with head so strong not wanting to change her maiden name- can take care of them... educate them with love so solid and discipline with grace so that they will be so proud carrying their last name. That is yours.
I hope you prefer me to portray my love and respect for you in that noble way.


Tressabel Hutasoit


TED talks: The Power of Introverts by Susan Cain

I have read Susan Cain's Quiet: The Power of Introverts and am so thrilled to watch its TED talks.

Brace yourself, the world that can't stop talking!

Jan 15, 2015


So at the age of 35, I finally met someone who knows, understands, and loves me enough to say this.

Worth the wait.

Jan 14, 2015


Got a tattoo and the paint is alright/ Just wanted a way of keeping you inside/ 
All I know is that I love you so/ So much that it hurts...

ps: Sexiest beat of this Brit band.

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